Hi guys. So we’re finally ending season 4 of Bachelor in Paradise, and if you follow me on Instagram or have seen my Insta-stories, you know there’s a few things I wanted to open up about to you all.
I am just going to clear the air, and I will time and time again, because I will not sit by and just watch people be mommy-shamers. I know the feeling of being attacked as a mom all too well, and it’s important for me to take a stand and let other women and parents know that they are not alone.
Kinsley and Charlie are my life. Everything I do, I do it for them. Nick (my ex-husband) and I consciously and successfully co-parent to ensure BOTH of their parents are in their lives. We frequently have dinners together as a normal family, and we switch every other weekend for the girls to sleepover. We are in constant communication about the girls all the time, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
To emphasize, I have the girls every other weekend, meaning this is when I plan my events. If I have Kins & Char that weekend, I am not going to schedule anything over them. They are my priority, I will say it over and over. Yes, it takes a lot of organization and careful planning, but who doesn’t have to go through that?! I make sure to be there for all the milestones in their lives, including taking Kinsley to school on her first day of kindergarten (and every day for that fact), making sure the tooth-fairy is making a stop at our house for Kins’ first tooth, and watching Charlie jump into the pool for the first time at her swimming lesson. These moments are precious to me, and I wouldn’t trade them for the world.
Everything in my life from #ads and #sponsoredposts (just being real here!!) to appearances and even filming Bachelor in Paradise means that I can save for THEIR future life, future school costs, first cars, a house with a yard for them to play in, etc. I am so fortunate that my career allows me to be with them more frequently than working a 40 hour workweek in an office would have allowed me to, and even then – KUDOS to all the moms out there who are working in a traditional corporate world and rushing home to put their kids to bed or all the moms who have a startup business working from home, or all the moms who are full time stay-at-home-moms (it’s the hardest job in the world!) Kudos to ALL moms because you know what?! We should always be supporting each other no matter what journey we decide to take, or how much help we admit we need. My parents, sister and Nick’s parents are SUCH a blessing in our world because they are always around and willing to help take care of the girls. So, no, I have never left Kins and Char without someone I fully trust.
That being said, Robby has never met the girls. At this point, you can say anything about me, but if you tell me that I am harming or hurting my girls, I will fight that with my whole heart. I’ve learned many, many lessons from being on The Bachelor, BIP3 and now, BIP4. My hesitation with Robby and taking things slow was a REAL thing for me. I got way too ahead of myself and I rushed things completely before. I admit that I could have done things way differently last year, but you know what else? You live, and you learn, and you APPLY those lessons. Robby has been to my house multiple times when the girls were not home and the only time he has seen them was when they were still in my car, literally strapped to their carseats, with no idea or regard to who he was. I was not ready to introduce Robby to my girls until I knew he was a more permanent aspect of my life, which would then ultimately funnel into their lives. Unfortunately, that didn’t work out.
That is ALL I will say about Robby from this point on.
I have had many, many comments telling me how much of a trashy mom I am, how terrible of a mom I am, and how I should be a better influence to my girls or be a better role model, but for me, being a good role model to my girls is how I choose to act around people and the things I choose to say. In the end, they will be influenced by how kind we are to strangers, to people we love, friends, family and everyone we cross paths with. They will take note in both our actions and the things we choose to say to or about another person. I will always choose to uphold that kindness and be a good person to the best of my ability for Kinsley and Charlie.
If you read all of this, THANK YOU for all of your continuous support. I do get all of your messages, and I do read them without the ability to respond all the time. But you guys are honestly, honestly the best. Love you guys!
Last night’s outfit details:
Dress – REVOLVE
Lip Color – Tom Ford, Spanish Pink
Necklace – Gorjana