Amanda Stanton

BIP Finale: My Open Letter

September 13, 2017 52 Comments

Hi guys. So we’re finally ending season 4 of Bachelor in Paradise, and if you follow me on Instagram or have seen my Insta-stories, you know there’s a few things I wanted to open up about to you all.

I am just going to clear the air, and I will time and time again, because I will not sit by and just watch people be mommy-shamers. I know the feeling of being attacked as a mom all too well, and it’s important for me to take a stand and let other women and parents know that they are not alone.

Kinsley and Charlie are my life. Everything I do, I do it for them. Nick (my ex-husband) and I consciously and successfully co-parent to ensure  BOTH of their parents are in their lives. We frequently have dinners together as a normal family, and we switch every other weekend for the girls to sleepover. We are in constant communication about the girls all the time, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

To emphasize, I have the girls every other weekend, meaning this is when I plan my events. If I have Kins & Char that weekend, I am not going to schedule anything over them. They are my priority, I will say it over and over. Yes, it takes a lot of organization and careful planning, but who doesn’t have to go through that?! I make sure to be there for all the milestones in their lives, including taking Kinsley to school on her first day of kindergarten (and every day for that fact), making sure the tooth-fairy is making a stop at our house for Kins’ first tooth, and watching Charlie jump into the pool for the first time at her swimming lesson. These moments are precious to me, and I wouldn’t trade them for the world.

Everything in my life from #ads and #sponsoredposts (just being real here!!) to appearances and even filming Bachelor in Paradise means that I can save for THEIR future life, future school costs, first cars, a house with a yard for them to play in, etc. I am so fortunate that my career allows me to be with them more frequently than working a 40 hour workweek in an office would have allowed me to, and even then – KUDOS to all the moms out there who are working in a traditional corporate world and rushing home to put their kids to bed or all the moms who have a startup business working from home, or all the moms who are full time stay-at-home-moms (it’s the hardest job in the world!) Kudos to ALL moms because you know what?! We should always be supporting each other no matter what journey we decide to take, or how much help we admit we need. My parents, sister and Nick’s parents are SUCH a blessing in our world because they are always around and willing to help take care of the girls. So, no, I have never left Kins and Char without someone I fully trust.

That being said, Robby has never met the girls. At this point, you can say anything about me, but if you tell me that I am harming or hurting my girls, I will fight that with my whole heart. I’ve learned many, many lessons from being on The Bachelor, BIP3 and now, BIP4. My hesitation with Robby and taking things slow was a REAL thing for me. I got way too ahead of myself and I rushed things completely before. I admit that I could have done things way differently last year, but you know what else? You live, and you learn, and you APPLY those lessons. Robby has been to my house multiple times when the girls were not home and the only time he has seen them was when they were still in my car, literally strapped to their carseats, with no idea or regard to who he was. I was not ready to introduce Robby to my girls until I knew he was a more permanent aspect of my life, which would then ultimately funnel into their lives. Unfortunately, that didn’t work out.

That is ALL I will say about Robby from this point on.

I have had many, many comments telling me how much of a trashy mom I am, how terrible of a mom I am, and how I should be a better influence to my girls or be a better role model, but for me, being a good role model to my girls is how I choose to act around people and the things I choose to say. In the end, they will be influenced by how kind we are to strangers, to people we love, friends, family and everyone we cross paths with. They will take note in both our actions and the things we choose to say to or about another person. I will always choose to uphold that kindness and be a good person to the best of my ability for Kinsley and Charlie.

If you read all of this, THANK YOU for all of your continuous support. I do get all of your messages, and I do read them without the ability to respond all the time. But you guys are honestly, honestly the best. Love you guys!

xox Amanda

Last night’s outfit details:

Dress – REVOLVE

Lip Color – Tom Ford, Spanish Pink

Necklace – Gorjana

52 Comments

  1. Reply

    Eileen

    September 13, 2017

    Eileen here… your old classmate at Paul Mitchell 😊. You are so right! Us mom’s need to support eachother, no matter how different our jobs are, we should all share the same commonality, which is the love we have for our children and teaching them to love and respect one another. Life would be boring if we were all the same. My Girls would love to play with your girls anytime 😘.

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      Laura

      September 15, 2017

      Hi Amanda,

      I am a mom of a 10 year old daughter and work 50+ hour work weeks, but when I watch you on tv, I say “how awesome she has found a way to provide and spend so much time with her girls!!”

      You are an adorable/wonderful Mom and the older your girls get, the more and more transparent that will become as they continue to grow into lovely young ladies.

      Being attacked as a Mom hurts so much, but glad you understand the reality, and that’s people just don’t get it.

      God bless you pretty ladies!

      -Laura
      From Jacksonville, Florida

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      Elly

      September 15, 2017

      Great post! It’s hard enough being a mom without people critiquing your every move! You’re a great role model for your girls 🙂

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      Demi Boon

      September 15, 2017

      Ever since I saw you on The Bachelor i had so much respect for you & still do. You are so classy and sweet with your responses. I admire & look up to you. You are THE best mom ever!! Kins & Char obviously think the same… that night you 4 went to dinner & your ex asked the girls who their fav was.m & their answer was “mommy!” Keep doing what you’re doing!! Love you Amanda!! Xoxo!

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      Kristin

      September 21, 2017

      Just wanted to say I LOVE You! You are a wonderful role model to your girls!

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    Marie

    September 13, 2017

    Hello Amanda, just read your post (obvi! If not I wouldn’t be commenting…lol). I am not a mother (yet!) but I’m extremely proud of how you manage every situation. I saw you in the bachelor, BIP 3 and 4 and I’ve seen how you’ve grown out of every situation. Ive seen how you’ve mature and that just there speaks volumes of the type of person you are. I admire you and hope that when I do become a mom I can be as strong, independent as you are. Keep being you, keep being real and will always keep you and your girls in my prayers. May God continue to bless your life abundantly.
    #TeamAmanda for life!

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    Amanda

    September 13, 2017

    Amanda – you are clearly one of the kindest people on the show and it is obvious you are a good mom! I hope eventually you’ll realize you don’t have to constantly defend yourself. I’ve never been in your shoes so I don’t know what it’s like to receive online criticism from strangers – ew – but I think the sooner you learn to ignore it the happier you will be! You don’t need to explain yourself to anyone! xo

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    Jessica

    September 13, 2017

    I applaud you for realizing you too need to have a fulfilled and happy life separate from your children as well as with them. Too many people believe that moms need to revolve their whole lives around their children. That’s not the way I want to raise my daughter. I want to raise her to be a strong women who takes care of herself and knows that taking care of herself, doing things for herself, and taking time to enjoy herself will one day make her a BETTER mom. Not a worse one.

    You love your girls. That is plain to see on social media. Don’t let the haters get to you.

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    Tracy Proutt

    September 13, 2017

    Wonderful blog!! You raised some valid points about how all moms can’t be with their kids at all times due to their own careers (whatever they may be). With the advent of social media, many of you are fortunate enough to be able to make a phenomenal living from the ads/sponsorships you do.

    Having been a single mom who juggled career and school while co-parenting with my ex and having great family support, I can say it takes a village and we raised a now successful, well rounded 22 year old.

    I think you’re right to just stop giving any more time or space to Robby. Seems he was into the thrill of the chase and nothing more. As for Josh, I believe he is probably a sociopath and you dodged a bullet there.

    Your day will come and it will be with someone who doesn’t gave ulterior motives.

    Good luck to you!

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    Judy...a mom of three

    September 13, 2017

    You go girl. I am a 58 year old woman and mom of three children. I am proud of you and how you have always handled yourself. Keep up the good work and ignore the bullies. They’re everywhere nowadays.

    P.S. You may already, but if you don’t, please take you baby girls to Sunday School and teach them how much Jesus loves all of us.

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    CJ

    September 13, 2017

    Amazing and very well said. You shouldn’t have to even explain yourself because it’s extremely evident that you love your kids and always put them first. You’ve been incredibly composed and gracious throughout this whole mess and your daughters are very lucky to have you as their role model😘

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    Jen Wong

    September 13, 2017

    I read your letter and I completely understand where you are coming from. You do what is best for you and your family. Regardless of what you do or don’t do, there will always be people who are quick to judge.
    I have 2 young sons and my husband and I do everything we can to do to help with our lives and our future.
    You are doing amazing! Snuggle the girls tight and you know you are their world because of how they love you!

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    Karla

    September 13, 2017

    Amanda, I follow you on all platforms and not once have I thought you put a man before your kids. Every time I see a snap of your kids – and the way you treat them – my heart melts. To many people, you are Amanda from the bachelor franchise. But to your girls, you are their world. You are their role model, their life-long friend, their purest love. They won’t remember you for being on TV, they’ll remember you for the swimming lessons, the tooth fairy, and the beautiful morals, values, class and grace with which you lead your life. I’m not a kid person but I adore your girls and I don’t even know them! You’re obviously doing something right. F*ck the haters!

    Big fan btw!

    Xo
    Karla 💕

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    Margaret

    September 13, 2017

    What brand is the white kimono you have on in the picture above your BIP Finale Open Letter? Thanks!

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    Rora

    September 13, 2017

    Amanda! I just wanted to mention that you have supporters all over the world not only in the US. My husband and I watch the bachelor franchise shows religiously. We can both agree that yes mistakes are made but those who can be strong and learn are the best kind of people. You should know for a fact that you’ve shown eloquence and kindness. You didn’t deserve any of them men you pursued in all 3 shows. Keep doing you and always be kind.

    All the love from Dubai!

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    Abbey Brandon

    September 13, 2017

    I am so sorry people have to waste their time judging your life instead of living their own best lives. You were amazing on the finale, and handle yourself in such an honorable manner. Also, you owned that dress! I may have to purchase 🙂 SO good.

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    Camilla

    September 13, 2017

    Amanda I just wanted to say as 24 year old female, I seriously look up to you. The way you hold yourself and continually rise above the lies that people write about you is incredible. If I turn out to half the mum you are I’d be happy. You truly are an amazing role model to your kids are other females xx

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    Meaghan

    September 14, 2017

    I have always defended you when people bitch about you being a bad mom. Freaking ridiculous and clearly untrue. You’ve clearly learned a lot and I respect you.

    Best,
    M

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    Shane

    September 14, 2017

    Very well said. Huge fan of you u gurrrl! I continue to wish nothing but the best for y’all and hope maybe one day we can get ice coffee and pedis haha. I just tweeted Mr. Harrison about u being on The Bachelorette haha.

    Ps Hook me up with Ben Z. He fine af! Okaaaayyyy?! 😛

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    Courtney

    September 14, 2017

    Well said Amanda. Wishing you the best!

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    Katherine

    September 14, 2017

    This is why I always hit like on your Instagram, always!! xx

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    TaylorJMCampbell

    September 14, 2017

    You’re an amazing mother Amanda! It astounds me how strong you are in the face of pure hatred and personal attacks to your character and role as a mother. When others encourage you to stoop down to their level, you rise above, which is one of the most difficult and trying things to do. I admire you and can truly see the kind hearted individual you are. How anyone can question you as a mother is beyond me! Kins and Char are growing up to be wonderful little, sweet humans and that’s all you can hope for as a mother. Do you have a PO box? I’d love to send a letter and some goodies for your girls! Let me know where I can send them please! ❤️

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    Rachel

    September 14, 2017

    You seem like a wonderful Mom! It is so rude that people harass you about your life choices. Your girls are so lucky you put them first and are taking time to find the right guy 😉 Also… you and your girls have the cutest style ever 💕

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    Erin

    September 14, 2017

    You’ve got my support Amanda!! I think you are doing a great job raising your girls, and I appreciate your kindness via social media and on BIP. I’m sorry about the all the haters and I hate it. Honestly, I think it’s a lot of people not handling their jealousy…you are pretty, fit, live in LA, to them seem to get things for ‘free’. Their jealousy turns into cruelty and immaturely. Keep doing what you do and speaking truth and positivity!! Much love!! ❤️

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    Allison

    September 15, 2017

    Amanda, you are so sweet and a great mother!! I respect you so much for taking things slow this summer in paradise. I can tell from your posts how much your girls mean to you and I hope one day when I have children that they’ll have as much love surrounding them as your kids do. People will be mean and jealous when you’re in the spotlight, you just have to brush it off. You’re true to yourself and that’s all that really matters!!

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    Kelli

    September 15, 2017

    Hi Amanda,
    I’ve never questioned your role as a single mother. I have been one and it’s a challenge! I wouldn’t change my experience for the world.
    I will comment on one thing….be selective in who you choose to hang out with. Some of the females from the Bachelor franchise are not the type of “role models ” I’d want around my granddaughter. Someday they (your girls) may “google” these people and well, some behavior is less than appropriate!
    God bless!

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    Laura

    September 15, 2017

    You Hi Amanda,

    I am a mom of a 10 year old daughter and work 50+ hour work weeks, but when I watch you on tv, I say “how awesome she has found a way to provide and spend so much time with her girls!!”

    You are an adorable/wonderful Mom and the older your girls get, the more and more transparent that will become as they continue to grow into lovely young ladies.

    Being attacked as a Mom hurts so much, but glad you understand the reality, and that’s people just don’t get it.

    God bless you pretty ladies!

    -Laura
    From Jacksonville, Florida

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    Erin

    September 15, 2017

    This is everything. You go girl!

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    Soona

    September 15, 2017

    I am not a mom yet but I hope that one day I can be half the mom you are. Your amazing girls are a testimony of how well they have been raised, I mean them praying that everyone has a loving happy healthy family and dinner is so precious and goes to show that their beautiful hearts are filled with so much love and kindness. We need more people like you in this world so I pray you find love and make more sweet beautiful babies for all our sakes 😂❤️

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    Megan

    September 15, 2017

    Oh Amanda….I’m a single mom and haven’t had a relationship since my son was born 8 years ago. Not that I haven’t tried…it’s just slim pickin’s out there. Don’t let judgmental people get to you. Being a mom is hard and trying to meet a good guy on top of that is even tougher. I’m with you girl! Do what makes you and your girls happy! People will always be judgemental and those people are usually unhappy with their own lives!

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    Nous Je

    September 15, 2017

    Hi, this is a message from The Netherlands. I really don’t get it… All the women who make such a big deal out of this. In Holland we don’t get that weird stuff that people attack you for being a working mom. That’s normaal Life here and respected. I follow you on insta for a couple a months now, And I think you’re doing a great job! Love to see your girls So happy. Because that is All I See….. And Most important of All. I don’t care how you date, but you still do. Single mom’s date too… So what. We are not attached to the kitchensink 😉 We take changes. Even with the wrong men. Love seeying your journey. Keep it up en don’t mind other opinions. You are doing good! Keep that in mind. Don’t explain yourself, Love. X

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    Valerie

    September 15, 2017

    Well said Amanda. I can’t imagine having people constantly commenting on my social media calling me a horrible mother. Every video and pictures I’ve ever seen of your girls, they look so happy! Hoping you find love someday with the right guy!

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    Michelle

    September 15, 2017

    No matter what you do in life people will always try and bring you down. Your a bigger person then those people and good for you for sticking up for yourself. Your girls are adorable and we see how much those girls mean to you . Good luck with everything you do.

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    Heidi

    September 15, 2017

    Amanda every person in the public eye is judged in some way and I can only imagine how hard it’s is to ignore them. You deserve love just like anyone else and from what I can see you are a great mom. Just my opinion!

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    Vanessa

    September 15, 2017

    Amanda, the fact that you even need to devote an entire blog post to defend yourself and your decisions as a woman and a mother, is what is wrong with our world and how real mom shaming is. I am a new mom to an 8 month old baby girl, and decided to leave the corporate world to stay home with her, but turns out, I needed a little bit more to feel fulfilled, so I made the decision to go back part time, working from home, which allows me the best of both worlds. I couldn’t imagine needing to explain that decision to anyone, let alone EVERYONE! Bottom line, we were individuals before we became units with our little people, and I can assure you that your girls will be proud of how strong, independent, and selfless their mother is, because let’s be honest, we don’t truly live for ourselves anymore and that’s ok! I could see through this all, you were making decisions that you felt would be best in the long run for your family (more time to be with them, better financial situation to provide for them, a chance to introduce another strong male figure into their life, etc.). You keep doing you girlfriend, and I hope this will be the last time you feel you need to defend yourself. It’s easy for those who live in glass houses to throw stones, so don’t let those same people make you feel less than. Easier said than done, I know, but you got this because there are plenty of moms out there who stand behind you and in the end, it’s about the quality of the people you surround yourself with, not the quantity. Truly wishing you the love story you deserve and I have a feeling the best is yet to come for you!

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    Karen

    September 15, 2017

    Sending love! It’s obvious what a great mom you are! Keep on being you!

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    Hollie Duvall

    September 15, 2017

    Love this Amanda! That’s all there is to say, point.blank.period. LOVE ❤

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    Courtney Smith

    September 15, 2017

    Us moms totally need to stay together!! All I have to say is you go girl! Try not to listen to what anybody says, I know it’s easier said than done, but you do you (and your girls of course)! It seems to be paying off 😉

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    Tori

    September 15, 2017

    Amanda, I think you are a fantastic mom!! Are you and Robby still dating? You guys were a cute couple. I LOVE YOU 💜💕💙 you are amazing!!

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    Sandy

    September 15, 2017

    Amanda!

    I hope you brush all the mean mama shamers off because I think you’re fantastic! Screw everyone who is judgemental. Everyone has their own path and battles! Mamas need to stick together! Good for you taking the path you have chosen. Not a lot of moms can jump out of mom guilt and do things for themselves anytime they can get. Self care is absolutely important and seeing how much your girls adore you and how much confidence you show them is a wonderful thing Amanda. Keep teaching them that it’s ok to be yourself and never lose your confidence! And for all you mama shamers out there…. do something that makes you happy besides judging someone who is trying to make a life for themselves and their children! Shame on you for being filled with hateful words. I don’t think you’re the ones setting a good example for Your Children!

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    Roxanne

    September 15, 2017

    👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼<all that needs to be said

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    Christie

    September 15, 2017

    I’m not a mom but hopefully I’ll be as good of a mom as you one day! Those are 2 lucky girls you have!

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    Lauren

    September 15, 2017

    Hi Amanda!
    I have such a hard time understanding why people would speak down on you, of all people! Every time I see you on tv, or instagram, or wherever else, the first thing I think of every time is “how can any human being possibly be this sweet?!” That is EXACTLY what a role model is, and those who think any differently are just out to bring you down to feel better about themselves, and they are clearly NOT role models for anyone, let alone their own children. Char and Kins could not have a better role model. You were not behaving badly on BIP or just hooking up, you were there with your kids in mind, looking for a genuine connection. I am only 22, and I am not a mom yet, but I have heard it time and time again: If mommy is happy, then the kids are happy too. You have EVERY right to find a life partner for yourself, whether it’s on tv or not! It is so obvious when I watch your videos how much your girls love you. And it is just as obvious how much you love them. I genuinely hope, more than I do for anyone else from the Bachelor Franchise, that you do find that life partner who loves both you and the girls. And I know you will. Everyone runs into a Josh or a Robby at some point in their life (lol) but I know you’ll find the right one, even if it means they have to make you the Bachelorette so I get to watch it unfold 😉Also, I am sooo unsure as to why people care if you film a BIP show or post sponsored ads on Instagram lol. Get that money, girl! Kind and Char will be so glad you did when they’re in college!

    All the best, Amanda. ❤️

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    Sara

    September 15, 2017

    Hi Amanda

    You are sooooo right. I wish you all the best. Your girls seem so sweet. I’ve been watching from Sweden 🇸🇪 and think you are a sweetheart. Take care and DONT listen to anything else!
    Xoxo

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    Kimberly

    September 15, 2017

    Amanda, I commend you for always taking the high ground and putting your children first. Your love for your girls is evident in all aspects of your life. We’re all (at least most of us) just on the outside looking in, and from what I can see your actions are mirroring what you’ve stated above – learning from your past and applying those lessons. I don’t personally know you or Robby, but I hope and pray that you each just take this as another lesson for the future. I can’t imagine being in the public eye and having my every move inspected under a microscope with everyone making assumptions. I’ll leave you with this – keep doing what you’re doing…keep shutting down the haters and keep your positive vibe. People close to you (and even those of us who aren’t) see your true spirit shining through all the negativity.

    With love,
    Kimberly

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    Sarah

    September 15, 2017

    Hi Amanda,
    I felt compelled to comment on your blog bc this entry really struck a nerve with my current life situation. I have been following you on IG for awhile and have always been team Amanda on BIP. I am a single parent to two awesome kiddos (ages 4 and 6) and recently have been receiving criticism as well from people who have NO idea what it means to be a co parent. I have and will do ANYTHING for my children, but people love to take half or even a quarter of your life and decide that you need to “grow up” or that your decisions and actions are inappropriate. What you said about living your life when the girls are with their dad… I totally get it and feel you completely!! Everything we do as single parents is for our kids, but when they are with their other parent, why do people feel like they have the right to judge what we do? Like they even understand what it’s like. I understand that you are in the public eye and have a ton more people judging you (which has to be so difficult) but just know that you are not alone. Keep doing you and screw the haters!!!! You love your girls and it is evident. Keep shining! ❤️

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    Brigitte

    September 15, 2017

    I’m a mom and it is MORE than apparent that you are a GREAT mom who puts her kids first and foremost. It sucks you have to explain and defend yourself to a bunch of internet trolls who don’t know you or your life personally! Hang in there mama you’re doin a great job!

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    Lex

    September 15, 2017

    Girl, I hate that you even have to explain and give people more information than they deserve. I have had to learn some hard lessons about people lately and it is this… they are going to talk and have opinions, but it matters to my life none at all. They will tear you down over envy and self loathing, this is their personal struggle and my prayers are for them. Your family is everything, protect your bubble of love. Just because someone says it, does not mean everyone believes it. For every one person that dislikes you, there are 100 that celebrate and adore you! ❤️You are truer than true and youer than you❤️

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    Desiree

    September 17, 2017

    Aww Amanda, how beautifully said. You truly are the sweetest, keep showing/instilling kindness into those two beautiful souls (kins and char!) 💗

    Xox Desiree

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    Karen Luisa Smith

    September 18, 2017

    Hi Amanda – major kudos to you. I, personally, am thankful you’re on social media because I love your content. The challenges that come with it must be difficult especially in the current escalating climate of hateful comments and content becoming routine. Countering that with kindness and positivity is essential. If you are half as kind and thoughtful as you seem to be here on the web, you’d be worthy of all good things. But I have a strong feeling you are just as kind and thoughtful as you appear. Again, kudos for strongly, kindly and thoughtfully speaking (well, writing!) your truth.

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    Cindy

    September 25, 2017

    Hello Lovely,

    I’ll brace for some mommy-shaming here as I admit to watching reality dating shows with my daughters. My older daughter, Evelyn, now 14, has never had much of an interest, but 11-year-old Phoebe has been watching shows from “The Bachelor Nation”
    with me since Sean and Catherine and probably even before that. Oh, I cover her eyes and her ears every now and again, but most of the things that would be of any concern for her to hear or see goes over her head anyway. The thing that I love about watching with her (aside from the obvious…snuggling together in bed or under cozy blankets on the sofa) is that she gets to see examples of dating behaviors both good and bad and the consequences that often go along with them. And it allows us to discuss the situations and behaviors we see in a natural way without it ever seeming like I’m lecturing or preaching to her – just two fans talking about how Matt might have like Jasmine more if she hadn’t smothered him so much, or how obviously Dean was the kind of guy who liked the chase, or how Taylor was so wise to show Derek that being spoken to so disrespectfully (when he said f*ck you to her) was ok with her and how healthy and mature their discussion about that was. There are countless opportunities for comments, observations, and discussions in every episode. And not only are there opportunities to discuss interactions between opposite genders, but also, certainly (especially on episodes of The Bachelor) lots of chances to discuss mean-girl scenarios and how to handle bullies! Also, she has seen what happens when both men and women drink too much – that’s led to some good observations on her part and fueled some good talks. And she has seen that there really is someone for everyone (thanks Carly & Evan) and that getting your heart broken is no reason to give up on love.

    We watched BiP last summer and just started binge-watching this season on Hulu this weekend. We still have several episodes to go, but I googled you tonight because I wanted to see if I could, somehow, send you a message. So, I found your Instagram page and then this blog. This seems like the appropriate place for me to leave the message that I wanted to try to send to you, and that is simply to say, “Thank You, Amanda.” Thank you for being an example, for my daughter, of how a classy woman behaves when dating. I didn’t know until reading this post (spoiler for me) that Robby’s and your relationship didn’t work out, but that doesn’t factor into this. What I saw of you on Ben’s season, on Bachelor in Paradise 3, and then again this year on BiP 4 shows what a kind and classy woman you are. When it comes to romantic relationships, you act neither pushy, needy, nor desperate. There is a calm confidence about you that somehow doesn’t exude arrogance. You carry yourself with grace and poise whether in one-on-one or group situations (which always makes you stick out in a crowd). You veer away from drama if possible, but you will clearly stick up for yourself when necessary (this blog post being the perfect example of that). You try to be honest while not hurting anyone’s feelings. You don’t speak unkindly of others and you don’t involve yourself in matters that don’t concern you. These are all behaviors and character traits that anyone would want to emphasize and highlight to their children, so thank you for giving me the opportunity to show my daughter examples of such dignity, grace, and decorum with each episode we watch. You are a good role model and someone I am happy that my beautiful daughter admires.

    I wish you all the happiness in the world.

    -Cindy

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      Amanda Stanton

      September 29, 2017

      Cindy,

      Thank you so much for taking the time to share this with me. I love that you and your daughter have such an amazing relationship that allows you guys to communicate with each other so genuinely. What an awesome way to use reality TV as a fun way to bond, but also teach some lessons! You are the sweetest. I wish you and your daughters all the best as well! xoxAmanda

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